Who is Lady Muse?
I am a 31 year old Dominant Women, living in Ontario, Canada.
I have been living within the BDSM lifestyle since 1996. I have worked my way up so to speak … as in I started on as a slave and have moved my way up to being my own Mistress. This I personally believe means that I know from my personal experience both sides of the deal to various degrees as they applied to me. Some might not agree with starting at the bottom, but I have found that for myself and those I play with its an added bonus and works well enough for me and others who I have been with over the years.
What Is In Your Blog?
Well here in my little area of cyber space, I post Quizes which catch my attention, I also post about events happening in my area, as well as my own personal experainces at the events I attend, and on my life in general. I also post about world events and local happenings which catch my attention in the news, I even on occasion post book, TV show, and video reviews as the mood strikes me. In general I post just about anything which catches my attention, including rants about people who get on my nerves.
Why BDSM?
Tough Q … I first learned about BDSM when I was about 15 or 16 can’t remember exactly when. My mom got be the book “The Joys of Sex” which was her way of doing the birds and the bees talk type deal. Well via that book I leaned about spanking and using scarves to bind a partner and a few other things which caught my attention. That got me interested to a degree in what it would be like to be on the giving and receiving ends of the deal.
Many years later I would have my first taste of the lifestyle via an ex who was in the lifestyle himself. He told me at the time he had been in it for many years (back then I didn’t question it, now I do – since he was two years younger then me when this all started). Anyhow, I spent 4 years with him as his slave during which time I learned how to top others, which I did find that I liked very much.
We parted ways, and in short order I found myself in a relationship with another women and though she was not 100% into the lifestyle she was interested to a degree (mostly spanking), anyhow that didn’t last long and from there I pretty much just left the lifestyle as a full time deal and concentrated on getting work and what not.
2003 I got right back in to things starting out as a switch, played with a few people here and there, and in 2004 meet my now ex and became his sub, then slave then ticked off ex (that relationship lasted 10 months of living together in which time I came to realize that it was not going to work and that he’d never meet my needs and I was not happy being only a slave without the abilities to top or own another of my own, just didn’t work for me).
2005 meet my future slave, and became her top .. she would have another Mistress before me, and a short time after leaving her Mistress she would be come mine as of September 2006.
March 2008 I would meet my future hubby and become his Mistress in turn – things started out vanilla between us and as friends, then I learned he was into the lifestyle and things have just progress on from there.
Mid 2009 my slave and I parted ways, as she was unable to continue on with me as her Mistress do to her own issues with the relationship and the direction it was taking.
What are you into?
My fav toy is the flogger, I have several of them that I like to use on my slave. I also have a lovely wooden paddle that feels oh so good, as well as a cane which well lets put it this way the marks it can leave are very lovely.
I am also in to cutting and needle play to various degrees. In most regards when it comes to playing there are few areas that I am not willing to explore if my sub/slave is also willing to explore with me. I am also into plushies and furries, which means animal play is to various degrees high on my interest level.
I also enjoy having my feet rubed and being given back rubs as well .. nothing like a good rub down at the end of the day to make one feel truly well and not as sore as you where before.
What Does It Take To Be Your Slave/Submissive?
Hmmm interesting Q … There are a few things up front that I expect in any one who wises to belong to me and that is that they do not Smoke, do not drugs, or drink a lot (one drink on rare occasion is accaptable, but daily is not).
In general I am open to any who are new to the lifestyle and wishing to explore their submissive side, I am not really into LDRs however that being said doesn’t mean its not a possibility. I will take on online slave/subs who will never meet real life but I wll not take on those who are not serious about it, as in I do expect daily reports on what is happening in your life and other things.
I will not take on a married submissive or slave, however the exception to that rule is I will take on a couple who wish to join me … that is accaptable to me. If your married and your partner doesn’t know about your lifestyle choice I suggest that you look else where I do not need the trouble that it can intail, or the possible legal troubles that can result.
I have no preferance for male or female subs/slaves but one thing you should understand from the start is SEX is not necessarly part of the deal. I am not looking nor interested in a sex slave. What I am interest in is a Maid, gofer, handyperson, and the like. Which means, I’m looking for those who are interested in serving me outside of the bedroom.
NOTE: At this point in time I am NOT looking for add another to my relationship, at this point in time I am just looking for Lifestyle Friends and Networking possibilities.
What is your Orentation and Religion?
Well in most regards my orentation has nothing to do with who I am or the slaves/subs I have but in general I am a bisexual asexual. Yes all that, I don’t like limited lables they just do not work for me in most regards. I am bisexual because either sex has its appeal, asexual because sex is not something that 100% intersts me its something that happens when the times right but i can go years with out it – thank you very much.
As to my religion, I am pagan though I do attend on occasion a Unitarian Universalist Church within my local community mostly because they hold events which interest me and they are not a 100% christian group, which works for me and many of the members of the group I have found are open minded when it comes to lifestyle choices, there are a few local BDSMers within the church.
Why do you call yourself a Domma? and not a Domme?
Rather simple, when I started in the lifestyle, I was told a female dominant was called a Domma (no idea of the real spelling, but am sure that is it, but could well be wrong). When I hear the term Domme, I think of its broken up as in Dom Me and that so does not work in my way of thinking, aka it sounds wrong when I hear it or see it.
….more to come…
